This piece is amazing, Cindy! IFS is such great work to do when on a healing path. It's kind of mind-boggling how many parts we each have and how they are all there to do a job and protect us throughout different times in our life. I also love that you talk about how women are expected to stay no matter what or no matter how they feel (gotta love The Patriarchy🙄). I also love that you had that reaction while watching "Apples Never Fall"--good for you! Such a great piece. Thank you for writing it!
I’ve been dipping my toes in IFS in a coaching program I’m in now. It’s fascinating, and I love how you describe your good girl part and the sturdy part. Those are both parts I have as well and I think they have played the same roles for me.
Yes, and I think those good girl parts are not bad. They play their purpose. If we recognize and accept them but don’t let them drive the bus forever the good girl can help us immensely! ☺️
You are both so right. But yes, at some point, the good girl has got to give up the reigns. I've been hearing a lot about how women give up the good girl in mid-life, like that it is almost like an initiation into the next realm of your life and it requires the shedding of the good girl. I'm super interested in that.
So excited to see this! I’m in my Level 1 training for IFS right now, I see an IFS therapist and my consultant is IFS informed, so I’m invested to say the least.
I love this breakdown of the model and will link to it in future newsletters of mine as a wonderful, real-life/grounded not too clinical explanation.
Some of my parts: Rule follower (similar to a good girl part), martyr, caretaking (those 2 are actually different to me, even though they may sound the same), and an Island/Isolator part (among dozens more 🫠)
This piece is amazing, Cindy! IFS is such great work to do when on a healing path. It's kind of mind-boggling how many parts we each have and how they are all there to do a job and protect us throughout different times in our life. I also love that you talk about how women are expected to stay no matter what or no matter how they feel (gotta love The Patriarchy🙄). I also love that you had that reaction while watching "Apples Never Fall"--good for you! Such a great piece. Thank you for writing it!
Thank you!
I’ve been dipping my toes in IFS in a coaching program I’m in now. It’s fascinating, and I love how you describe your good girl part and the sturdy part. Those are both parts I have as well and I think they have played the same roles for me.
Unfortunately, I think the majority of women in our society have a pretty prominent Good Girl part--we're socialized for it from birth.
Yes, and I think those good girl parts are not bad. They play their purpose. If we recognize and accept them but don’t let them drive the bus forever the good girl can help us immensely! ☺️
You are both so right. But yes, at some point, the good girl has got to give up the reigns. I've been hearing a lot about how women give up the good girl in mid-life, like that it is almost like an initiation into the next realm of your life and it requires the shedding of the good girl. I'm super interested in that.
thank you for this.
So excited to see this! I’m in my Level 1 training for IFS right now, I see an IFS therapist and my consultant is IFS informed, so I’m invested to say the least.
I love this breakdown of the model and will link to it in future newsletters of mine as a wonderful, real-life/grounded not too clinical explanation.
Some of my parts: Rule follower (similar to a good girl part), martyr, caretaking (those 2 are actually different to me, even though they may sound the same), and an Island/Isolator part (among dozens more 🫠)
I'm so glad this resonated and you plan to share! What I love about the parts is they are so specific to the person! And manifest in different ways.
I haven’t watched the show but I read the book. Based on this scene alone I think I will watch it, I had felt torn over watching!
I recommend it. The casting is pretty spot on.