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Anne West's avatar

Wow! The idea that we don't always realize we are traumatized is very powerful. Now that I have had some time and space to heal and grow, I can see the story I crafted about my life to laugh off the hurt was a survival mechanism. I appreciate the books you write about in your newsletters, and I look forward to reading this one when it is relased.

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Elizabeth Heydary's avatar

I read The House of my Mother by Shari Franke and she described learning about fawning as her own trauma response to the abuse of her parents during therapy. I have always tended toward flight so fawn response is unfamiliar to me.

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Dina's avatar

Ingrid is amazing! What a gift that you were able to work so intimately with each other. This is just another reason I can’t wait to read Fawning (pre-ordered it, natch).

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Jennifer Bridgman's avatar

Tears, chills, and massive gratitude that I’ve now discovered you both. I was meant to read this poweful essay, as I believe many of us are. I look forward to many, many more words from both of you women. 💫

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gfrangello's avatar

I’m really eager to read her book. Cool to learn of your involvement!

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Christine Fairfield's avatar

This makes so much sense to me and is something I have been exploring myself. I'm absolutely fascinated that you are a twin and would love to hear more about how that was at play in the development of this coping strategy. I'm also a twin and I feel like it was an integral part of the way that my people pleasing tendencies and loss of self as a young child developed. I'm only now in my late forties unpacking how all of that played together with my wiring to make me who I am.

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Darby Saxbe's avatar

Wow, small world, Ingrid is actually in my small moms' writing group on Facebook!

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Cindy DiTiberio's avatar

That is crazy!

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Dr. Ingrid Clayton's avatar

Stop it right now! 🤗🤗👋👋

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Darby Saxbe's avatar

I love it! Synchronicity!

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