Wow! The idea that we don't always realize we are traumatized is very powerful. Now that I have had some time and space to heal and grow, I can see the story I crafted about my life to laugh off the hurt was a survival mechanism. I appreciate the books you write about in your newsletters, and I look forward to reading this one when it is relased.
I read The House of my Mother by Shari Franke and she described learning about fawning as her own trauma response to the abuse of her parents during therapy. I have always tended toward flight so fawn response is unfamiliar to me.
Ingrid is amazing! What a gift that you were able to work so intimately with each other. This is just another reason I can’t wait to read Fawning (pre-ordered it, natch).
Tears, chills, and massive gratitude that I’ve now discovered you both. I was meant to read this poweful essay, as I believe many of us are. I look forward to many, many more words from both of you women. 💫
This makes so much sense to me and is something I have been exploring myself. I'm absolutely fascinated that you are a twin and would love to hear more about how that was at play in the development of this coping strategy. I'm also a twin and I feel like it was an integral part of the way that my people pleasing tendencies and loss of self as a young child developed. I'm only now in my late forties unpacking how all of that played together with my wiring to make me who I am.
Wow! The idea that we don't always realize we are traumatized is very powerful. Now that I have had some time and space to heal and grow, I can see the story I crafted about my life to laugh off the hurt was a survival mechanism. I appreciate the books you write about in your newsletters, and I look forward to reading this one when it is relased.
I read The House of my Mother by Shari Franke and she described learning about fawning as her own trauma response to the abuse of her parents during therapy. I have always tended toward flight so fawn response is unfamiliar to me.
Ingrid is amazing! What a gift that you were able to work so intimately with each other. This is just another reason I can’t wait to read Fawning (pre-ordered it, natch).
Tears, chills, and massive gratitude that I’ve now discovered you both. I was meant to read this poweful essay, as I believe many of us are. I look forward to many, many more words from both of you women. 💫
I’m really eager to read her book. Cool to learn of your involvement!
This makes so much sense to me and is something I have been exploring myself. I'm absolutely fascinated that you are a twin and would love to hear more about how that was at play in the development of this coping strategy. I'm also a twin and I feel like it was an integral part of the way that my people pleasing tendencies and loss of self as a young child developed. I'm only now in my late forties unpacking how all of that played together with my wiring to make me who I am.
Hi! Thank you for this comment. I for sure think it is a super unique thing to grow up with a twin and can lead to codependency which is a lot like fawning in many ways. Here are a few other posts where I discussed being a twin! https://cindyditiberio.substack.com/p/women-talking-twin-talk-e0b?utm_source=publication-search
https://open.substack.com/pub/cindyditiberio/p/a-vessel-of-expectation?r=lvi1c&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false
https://open.substack.com/pub/cindyditiberio/p/on-care-and-codependency?r=lvi1c&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false
Wow, small world, Ingrid is actually in my small moms' writing group on Facebook!
That is crazy!
Stop it right now! 🤗🤗👋👋
I love it! Synchronicity!