When the Battle Never Ends
a Divorce Diary update two years in the making
"You are never going home from this war"
Welcome to the third installment of The Divorce Diaries (you can read all entries here).
“This is the unspoken devastation of divorce. That it is never really over and very rarely do women get what the courts or their MSAs or their parenting plans have granted them.” - from What No One Tells You About Divorce
Despite all the empowering posts I have written about divorce, there is an aspect of divorce that is horrifying. That all the hours you spent crafting a settlement are worthless if you have a high-conflict ex who wants to test your boundaries. Who wants to keep you mired in disputes. Who wants to wield compliance (or their lack thereof) as a tool to keep torturing you.
I first shared this woman’s divorce diary in March 2024. She had been divorced since March 2021, but her ex had ceased paying child support in June 2022, and he was in arrears in multiple categories (in other words, he owed her a lot of money in addition to child support that was promised in the settlement).
She was taking him back to court to get said money. She lived in NYC and was the primary caretaker of her son. Her monthly child support was supposed to be $4,500 a month. She could not move her son to a more affordable area without her ex’s permission.
When we published the diary, her court date was set for May 2024. She has just now gotten a payment from him, and it isn’t for the full amount.