"Listen, every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself. "
How I wish that I had known this from childhood, I'm doing my best to teach my teenage daughter to live this way.
Thank you for an excellent, well observed, read. I love Glennon Doyle's work and I agree wholeheartedly that permission is her gift to us, her rawness and skilful ability to articulate so clearly what we have been feeling but not understanding. It has been an instrumental part in enabling me - in my 50s - to take control of my life for the first time too.
I love your spotlighting Glennon and co. Their work helped me put words to my self-alienation, helped me grow a spine to leave the flattened cartoon I’d become via endless caretaking. Permission 101!!! to quit othering and our cages of fear. What’s good for the soul is good for all souls. Thank you!
“The flattened cartoon I’d become via endless caretaking.” So good! I’d love to see an image of that. You are an artist, can you draw that? Either way it is a spot on depiction!
I love this post. The passage on disappointment was also my favourite. I was so moved by it, I read it to my team at work the following day and some of the moms teared up! #permissiontofeel
That is so beautiful. I love that you are giving your employees the space to recognize how constantly pleasing others can sometimes mean we abandon ourselves. Thanks for reading and sharing!
"Listen, every time you’re given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself. "
How I wish that I had known this from childhood, I'm doing my best to teach my teenage daughter to live this way.
Thank you for an excellent, well observed, read. I love Glennon Doyle's work and I agree wholeheartedly that permission is her gift to us, her rawness and skilful ability to articulate so clearly what we have been feeling but not understanding. It has been an instrumental part in enabling me - in my 50s - to take control of my life for the first time too.
I’m so glad this piece resonated and that she is providing new life for you, too!
I love your spotlighting Glennon and co. Their work helped me put words to my self-alienation, helped me grow a spine to leave the flattened cartoon I’d become via endless caretaking. Permission 101!!! to quit othering and our cages of fear. What’s good for the soul is good for all souls. Thank you!
“The flattened cartoon I’d become via endless caretaking.” So good! I’d love to see an image of that. You are an artist, can you draw that? Either way it is a spot on depiction!
Here's some work I did years ago plus i have colored pencil sketches that are telling I'll look for:
http://www.studiosmyth.com/portfolio.php?pid=6
also, a couple of images of the cartoon I became (from my IG):
https://www.instagram.com/p/BvVGMuxnYfrWeEFVHwQ011-RiUQ9hvRi-Pfzk00/
https://www.instagram.com/p/BvVGdgmHSTgre_TSoTOJ7eg0vOxdTx-Okpk7YE0/
and I have some fun (I think, sketches in colored pencil)...a character I call Yellow Haired Girl in a number of iterations.
Show up, tell the truth and don’t be attached to the outcome. Great read, thank you!
I love this post. The passage on disappointment was also my favourite. I was so moved by it, I read it to my team at work the following day and some of the moms teared up! #permissiontofeel
That is so beautiful. I love that you are giving your employees the space to recognize how constantly pleasing others can sometimes mean we abandon ourselves. Thanks for reading and sharing!