I’m a “stay at home” mum after finding childcare unaffordable on my current salary for 2 children.
I completely feel this that the role of the stay at home parent isn’t valued. In the UK you get more childcare support financially when a child is 3 IF you are working. I get 2 full days for my 3 year old and we pay full price for my 1 yr old giving me 1 day i can work. This means as a stay at home mum I am having to work alongside supporting my family full time in a flexible way- I have started my own graphic design business. I can only work one day a week or at weekends and evenings so in a way my work as a parent feels undervalued because I still need to cover the cost of childcare through working evenings and weekends as well as being up every few hours in the night with the youngest. I am completely spent and yet I don’t feel like I am doing enough because I am not making much money. It is so tough after years of being financially independent to rely on my partner and to get out of the mindset that “work” is only work if it earns money. I don’t think about what i’m earning through not sending them to childcare and thanks to your piece that is something I will certainly have on my mind now. Thanks for offering a different perspective.
Oh my gollllyyyyy how much I love this. We are speaking the same language. Bravo. Brava. Keep going, please. I have a lengthy piece on the math of the hours of the week and why it's so important to have support and help during those 168 hours -- please enjoy, and let me know if you want to talk about this on an upcoming episode if it fits with what you're doing!
I’m a “stay at home” mum after finding childcare unaffordable on my current salary for 2 children.
I completely feel this that the role of the stay at home parent isn’t valued. In the UK you get more childcare support financially when a child is 3 IF you are working. I get 2 full days for my 3 year old and we pay full price for my 1 yr old giving me 1 day i can work. This means as a stay at home mum I am having to work alongside supporting my family full time in a flexible way- I have started my own graphic design business. I can only work one day a week or at weekends and evenings so in a way my work as a parent feels undervalued because I still need to cover the cost of childcare through working evenings and weekends as well as being up every few hours in the night with the youngest. I am completely spent and yet I don’t feel like I am doing enough because I am not making much money. It is so tough after years of being financially independent to rely on my partner and to get out of the mindset that “work” is only work if it earns money. I don’t think about what i’m earning through not sending them to childcare and thanks to your piece that is something I will certainly have on my mind now. Thanks for offering a different perspective.
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Oh my gollllyyyyy how much I love this. We are speaking the same language. Bravo. Brava. Keep going, please. I have a lengthy piece on the math of the hours of the week and why it's so important to have support and help during those 168 hours -- please enjoy, and let me know if you want to talk about this on an upcoming episode if it fits with what you're doing!
https://startupparent.substack.com/p/the-parenting-math-that-doesnt-add