Very informative article. Financial literacy is so important! Knowing your finances and your rights to money is very important for women and it's not taught enough in school. Women are often painted as spendthrifts in pop culture too. "Only 54% of couples say they make financial decisions jointly"--I wonder how much of this indicates how one spouse might be controlling or dictating the others' spending. Lyz lenz wrote a good article on her experiences with money https://time.com/6588974/money-marriage-trap-lyz-lenz-essay/
In Virginia, adultery is still a criminal offense! If you have kids under 18 (or still in HS) and you want to divorce, it's a mandatory one-year separation. If you date during that one year separation, that's adultery. If you commit adultery, you lose all claims to spousal support. Adultery isn't the easiest to prove, but it can be done. And, even more backwards, until 2002, it was legal in Virginia to rape your wife. 2002!!
I'd be curious how anyone recommends starting a conversation around negotiating a post-nup. Like I'd love to hear from couples who did them and what those conversations looked like. Most importantly, how do you start that conversation without your spouse immediately becoming suspicious of your motives. It seems that would be an even higher hurdle than a pre-nup. At least if you're in your 20s getting married, a pre-nup might be like "we don't have much but here this is what we would do 'in theory'." But a post-nup, after 10 or 20 years of marriage, now you've accumulated assets, retirement funds etc, I imagine it's a harder conversation, especially if you're also trying to account for spousal support (which you should, if it applies) into the document. How do THOSE conversations go? I'd love to see that addressed somewhere.
I appreciated this, though perhaps not for the reasons the author intended. In today's environment, some view love relationships as somewhat transactional, meaning that all aspects of the arrangement—including breaches—should be considered accordingly. I'm curious about the percentage of men/women who claim alimony or receive spousal support, and I believe this perspective could offer valuable insights for young people who idealize relationships purely as expressions of love. Wow. Who hurt you? I think most young men are getting the message. Dont get into a relationship and if you do don't keep your wife from her job.
Very informative article. Financial literacy is so important! Knowing your finances and your rights to money is very important for women and it's not taught enough in school. Women are often painted as spendthrifts in pop culture too. "Only 54% of couples say they make financial decisions jointly"--I wonder how much of this indicates how one spouse might be controlling or dictating the others' spending. Lyz lenz wrote a good article on her experiences with money https://time.com/6588974/money-marriage-trap-lyz-lenz-essay/
In Virginia, adultery is still a criminal offense! If you have kids under 18 (or still in HS) and you want to divorce, it's a mandatory one-year separation. If you date during that one year separation, that's adultery. If you commit adultery, you lose all claims to spousal support. Adultery isn't the easiest to prove, but it can be done. And, even more backwards, until 2002, it was legal in Virginia to rape your wife. 2002!!
I'd be curious how anyone recommends starting a conversation around negotiating a post-nup. Like I'd love to hear from couples who did them and what those conversations looked like. Most importantly, how do you start that conversation without your spouse immediately becoming suspicious of your motives. It seems that would be an even higher hurdle than a pre-nup. At least if you're in your 20s getting married, a pre-nup might be like "we don't have much but here this is what we would do 'in theory'." But a post-nup, after 10 or 20 years of marriage, now you've accumulated assets, retirement funds etc, I imagine it's a harder conversation, especially if you're also trying to account for spousal support (which you should, if it applies) into the document. How do THOSE conversations go? I'd love to see that addressed somewhere.
I appreciated this, though perhaps not for the reasons the author intended. In today's environment, some view love relationships as somewhat transactional, meaning that all aspects of the arrangement—including breaches—should be considered accordingly. I'm curious about the percentage of men/women who claim alimony or receive spousal support, and I believe this perspective could offer valuable insights for young people who idealize relationships purely as expressions of love. Wow. Who hurt you? I think most young men are getting the message. Dont get into a relationship and if you do don't keep your wife from her job.