8 Comments

I love the part about some men "not seeing" what needs to be done around a home. And let me add that when you tell them what needs to be done, you are accused of nagging. I lived with that for about 8 years and it is infuriating.

Expand full comment

"feeling like we did not consent to the terms and yet they were forced upon us." yup.

Expand full comment

This article is so right on- I keep returning to it because you offer so many wonderful references.

Everything that mothers experienced during the pandemic is what single mothers (without ties to a father such as for safety reasons) experience all the time-all day-all night every single day. No end in sight- especially for single mothers who have children with extra needs (I am one of them).

I wish I we’re divorced from a normal man- at least then, I could have somewhat of a life of my own.

Expand full comment

Sorry to say, I'm a journalist as well...and this doesn't begin to cover the horror of marriage in america today.

https://open.substack.com/pub/whatyourenotbeingtold/p/this-is-domestic-terror-perpetrated?r=1t5tg5&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

Expand full comment

Motherhood is literally missing the village, we need many people around (male and female)- one handling the cooking, one handling cleaning, one answering all the questions children have, one making money, one holding baby etc...while mother naps or showers or eats a hot meal, works or whatever until it’s her turn to give to the children. Mothers need a way to replenish our energy so we can keep giving and that’s what the village is for.

Expand full comment
Comment removed
Expand full comment