I love the part about some men "not seeing" what needs to be done around a home. And let me add that when you tell them what needs to be done, you are accused of nagging. I lived with that for about 8 years and it is infuriating.
This article is so right on- I keep returning to it because you offer so many wonderful references.
Everything that mothers experienced during the pandemic is what single mothers (without ties to a father such as for safety reasons) experience all the time-all day-all night every single day. No end in sight- especially for single mothers who have children with extra needs (I am one of them).
I wish I we’re divorced from a normal man- at least then, I could have somewhat of a life of my own.
Oh my gosh yes, this is so very real- people don’t realize what the word “trafficking” actually is in all its forms and this is it! Court systems. Yes ma’am.
Motherhood is literally missing the village, we need many people around (male and female)- one handling the cooking, one handling cleaning, one answering all the questions children have, one making money, one holding baby etc...while mother naps or showers or eats a hot meal, works or whatever until it’s her turn to give to the children. Mothers need a way to replenish our energy so we can keep giving and that’s what the village is for.
That's all you need is soap and hot water to clean, along with good amount of physical labor. There is a middle ground between mice in cupboards and a place crawling with roaches and a "glossy magazine norm". I don't know if you live in an apartment complex, duplex, or somewhere far from other humans, but failure to maintain even the barest sanitary standards affects others if your place is close to or attached to theirs.
I love the part about some men "not seeing" what needs to be done around a home. And let me add that when you tell them what needs to be done, you are accused of nagging. I lived with that for about 8 years and it is infuriating.
"feeling like we did not consent to the terms and yet they were forced upon us." yup.
This article is so right on- I keep returning to it because you offer so many wonderful references.
Everything that mothers experienced during the pandemic is what single mothers (without ties to a father such as for safety reasons) experience all the time-all day-all night every single day. No end in sight- especially for single mothers who have children with extra needs (I am one of them).
I wish I we’re divorced from a normal man- at least then, I could have somewhat of a life of my own.
https://open.substack.com/pub/whatyourenotbeingtold/p/the-us-is-responsible-for-torturing?r=1t5tg5&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
Oh my gosh yes, this is so very real- people don’t realize what the word “trafficking” actually is in all its forms and this is it! Court systems. Yes ma’am.
Sorry to say, I'm a journalist as well...and this doesn't begin to cover the horror of marriage in america today.
https://open.substack.com/pub/whatyourenotbeingtold/p/this-is-domestic-terror-perpetrated?r=1t5tg5&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
Motherhood is literally missing the village, we need many people around (male and female)- one handling the cooking, one handling cleaning, one answering all the questions children have, one making money, one holding baby etc...while mother naps or showers or eats a hot meal, works or whatever until it’s her turn to give to the children. Mothers need a way to replenish our energy so we can keep giving and that’s what the village is for.
That's all you need is soap and hot water to clean, along with good amount of physical labor. There is a middle ground between mice in cupboards and a place crawling with roaches and a "glossy magazine norm". I don't know if you live in an apartment complex, duplex, or somewhere far from other humans, but failure to maintain even the barest sanitary standards affects others if your place is close to or attached to theirs.