unpacking Amy Shearn's recent NYT piece, Kate Mangino's Equal Partners, and an episode of "Bluey"
I love the part about some men "not seeing" what needs to be done around a home. And let me add that when you tell them what needs to be done, you are accused of nagging. I lived with that for about 8 years and it is infuriating.
"feeling like we did not consent to the terms and yet they were forced upon us." yup.
This article is so right on- I keep returning to it because you offer so many wonderful references.
Everything that mothers experienced during the pandemic is what single mothers (without ties to a father such as for safety reasons) experience all the time-all day-all night every single day. No end in sight- especially for single mothers who have children with extra needs (I am one of them).
I wish I we’re divorced from a normal man- at least then, I could have somewhat of a life of my own.
Sorry to say, I'm a journalist as well...and this doesn't begin to cover the horror of marriage in america today.
Motherhood is literally missing the village, we need many people around (male and female)- one handling the cooking, one handling cleaning, one answering all the questions children have, one making money, one holding baby etc...while mother naps or showers or eats a hot meal, works or whatever until it’s her turn to give to the children. Mothers need a way to replenish our energy so we can keep giving and that’s what the village is for.