Congrats Cindy! I just signed my papers after our first mediation a month ago and I sobbed afterwards in the car, even though I got everything I wanted, it’s a sad, clinical, legal way to end a partnership. I wrote about it too. I’m still resting;) Be gentle with yourself❤️
Congrats for getting to the finish line. I found a therapist and got a tattoo celebrating that I found myself back after losing much of myself in my marriage after my divorce. It’s been quite a process to unpack everything.
Cindy, I am so, so happy for you! At last! I know the pain and the perseverance of what you've been through, and the generosity with which you've shared your experience to help other women feel less alone and more informed to advocate for themselves. I also know exactly what you mean by the grief, and how beautifully you put it, about looking back at the horizon, at what could have been. I felt the same way, and almost felt like I wasn't "allowed" to grieve the end of a marriage I had initiated, after all. I am excited to see your new directions. I am exploring new directions, too. And isn't that wonderful? Without change, even hard-won change, we don't grow. We don't expand. I see so much possibility for you.
The other day you asked something somewhere (insta maybe?) about what you should do when you finally finalised things. You were wondering things from partying to sleeping. And I felt so exhausted just contemplating my answer that I didn't get round to saying anything...I'm 3 months from the end of mine and I'm only just starting to feel the exhaustion leaving. I've spent a lot of time going quiet and inwards (unusual for me) just letting my system recover. I hope you can show yourself the care you need as you recover back to full strength. Well done for getting to the finish line. Sending tea and cake from over the pond.
I’m still soldiering on as a single mother and healing too, five years later. Only, my children’s father still throws axes every once in a while, and I try not to let that set my healing back.
I grieved the loss of the dream of growing old with someone; I grieve the dream of being known intimately through a lifelong companionship.
Since I’m a sucker for a good metaphor, I ran a marathon the week after our settlement was finalized in court. The race photographers caught two photos as I crossed the finish line: one, utterly haggard and ready to vomit; the other beaming because I caught sight of my friends holding signs at the finish line with my maiden name. It was both.
Congrats Cindy! I just signed my papers after our first mediation a month ago and I sobbed afterwards in the car, even though I got everything I wanted, it’s a sad, clinical, legal way to end a partnership. I wrote about it too. I’m still resting;) Be gentle with yourself❤️
Congrats for getting to the finish line. I found a therapist and got a tattoo celebrating that I found myself back after losing much of myself in my marriage after my divorce. It’s been quite a process to unpack everything.
Cindy, I am so, so happy for you! At last! I know the pain and the perseverance of what you've been through, and the generosity with which you've shared your experience to help other women feel less alone and more informed to advocate for themselves. I also know exactly what you mean by the grief, and how beautifully you put it, about looking back at the horizon, at what could have been. I felt the same way, and almost felt like I wasn't "allowed" to grieve the end of a marriage I had initiated, after all. I am excited to see your new directions. I am exploring new directions, too. And isn't that wonderful? Without change, even hard-won change, we don't grow. We don't expand. I see so much possibility for you.
I got an eye lift.
The other day you asked something somewhere (insta maybe?) about what you should do when you finally finalised things. You were wondering things from partying to sleeping. And I felt so exhausted just contemplating my answer that I didn't get round to saying anything...I'm 3 months from the end of mine and I'm only just starting to feel the exhaustion leaving. I've spent a lot of time going quiet and inwards (unusual for me) just letting my system recover. I hope you can show yourself the care you need as you recover back to full strength. Well done for getting to the finish line. Sending tea and cake from over the pond.
Yeah I crashed for a good six months after mine ended. It took that long just for my nervous system to reset.
Congrats! Thank you for sharing your experiences so far and I look forward to what you come up with now that you're on the other side!
Congrats 👏
I was so glad and eager to be done with my divorce, and then wept immediately after. You did it ❤️
I’m still soldiering on as a single mother and healing too, five years later. Only, my children’s father still throws axes every once in a while, and I try not to let that set my healing back.
I grieved the loss of the dream of growing old with someone; I grieve the dream of being known intimately through a lifelong companionship.
But I never wallow!
Since I’m a sucker for a good metaphor, I ran a marathon the week after our settlement was finalized in court. The race photographers caught two photos as I crossed the finish line: one, utterly haggard and ready to vomit; the other beaming because I caught sight of my friends holding signs at the finish line with my maiden name. It was both.
I love this image and metaphor. The both sheer exhaustion and triumph.