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Oh my goodness this could have been plucked from my brain. I try to have so many micro conversations with my son (4) around bodily consent, around connection, around listening to eachother etc. I really believe that laying these foundations are so crucial so that we aren't just springing them onto a 13, 14, 15 year old who has had a lifetime of crossing boundaries and acting on blind impulse when it comes to other peoples bodies.

I could go on and on about this topic! thank you for speaking to it

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Thank you! You are on the right track. Esther Perel says these conversations should start around the age of four!

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My approach is small conversations as they come up. My five year old understands human reproduction, and I have separately explained to him what sex is (in terms of pleasure and playing with each other - adults playing with adults or teenagers playing with teenagers), but I did not connect sex with reproduction at all.

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Awesome. And yes it is a form of play. I love that frame.

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Oct 4, 2023Liked by Cindy DiTiberio

Yes. 👏👏👏

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Brilliant. Absolutely brilliant. Going to gently broach each of these topics with my teen & tween. Thankfully they are both very open to talking to me and they know I’m “that mom” who is always going to be an open book because I wasn’t given any info as a kid.

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Thank you! And yes, be that mom!

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I wish more parents would give sex talks like this...it would definitely help so many young people and create a much better foundation for them. It's a lot harder to unlearn harmful messages later in life.

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